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What is Real Professional Experienced Matchmaking?

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Hi everyone, my name is John Holt I founded Tri-State Dating service in 1992 growing this business from the realization that as time changes so does the dating process. How do I know this? I have been living it with singles all over CT RI MA and Eastern NY. My service didn’t pop up overnight making outrageous claims about how Matchmaking doesn’t work.  There are and continue to be single people who understood dating is a process. They were smart single people who didn’t fall for fly by night gimmicks. Smart single people know that dating is a process which involves the comprehensive understanding of values, attraction, interests, timing, lifestyle, image, intellect and the skills of personal magnetism.  Anyone can pop up overnight and claim they know what they are doing; trying to convince you that while running matchmaking service no one else in the business is competent. Sorry, snake oil is as old as the days on earth and some are trying again. Anyone in this business who tells you it will be easy is as they say in Latin caveat emptor meaning buyer beware.  If it sounds too good to be true it is.




Professional Matchmaking in my terms means a complete thorough understanding of you. This is about you. Yes sometimes I have to advise you to change course. The success of a single person who wants to end up in a meaningful relationship. Yes the world has changed and it changes rapidly. Technology has done that. What has not changed is true love and why men and women come together. Just read any biological manual on why men and women attract. We are and have been for centuries born with the same DNA.


So what I do as your personal professional Matchmaker is cultivate big picture thinking this means men and women in the modern era must seek to understand each other. Men must embrace the multi-dimensional female. Women must understand why and how men choose feminine energy to be attracted. I help singles engage in focused thinking about a process that takes time. It isn’t about a picture and profile if it is that superficial then go to the pop up overnight snake oil company. It is easy to tell you what sounds great only to find out it isn’t true and not that easy. As professional Matchmaker I have a code of ethics an obligation to tell you the truth even when what I must tell you is not popular however will help you succeed. I want you to end up in the situation that completes or enhances your life. So we together engage in focused reality based thinking together.


My brand is Realistic Matchmaking which has stood the test of time. I have seen more companies; Matchmakers come and go in the last 23 years. My brand is not a fairytale it is reality. I am not a sales person telling you what you want to hear so I can extract your money from you. I represent the truth because that is all we can live by.  You must think realistically as a single person about whom you attract and who finds you attractive. I identify these possibilities by getting to know you.


I ask you, can you think strategically? If so we can develop a relationship based on the idea that this dating process is complicated and we together will solve it with the idea in mind that you will get into relationship that suits your happiness.  The strategy is based on understanding men and women and what draws them to each other and why.


As Matchmaker I try to get you to focus on the exploration of possibility thinking. A mindset is based in have the right attitude.  Acceptance of people is the cornerstone of good dating practices. Think of the possibilities and be positive about the opposite sex. You have to like them in order to relate well. The possibilities can be endless.


Can you learn from feedback you must reflect on? Feedback is important with your Matchmaker.  I can help you if you have an open mind.  We talk together about reality.


Always question what sounds too good to be true and is populist sales speak.  A Matchmaker knows all the complexities. I can help you deal with reality and become coupled with the right person.  We share in feedback and share in thoughts.


Remember values matter, you are more likely to be matched long term on values and substance than pictures. 


The bottom line here is I have a vast knowledge of how dating to form relationships this is my mission and has succeeded since 1992. If you ever want to understand what I know go listen to the podcasts of my successful radio show Networking Singles on the air since 2007 at www.wxlm.fm  anytime of the day at your leisure or listen live 10am-noon Saturdays.


Final thought here, clients appreciate genuine truth being told to them by an experienced professional who never compromises on ethics.




John Holt


Personal Professional Matchmakerties by getting to know you.


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