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The Strength of Relationships

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It has long been a goal of mine to bring balance to how men and women view each other. It further is a goal of mine to persuade all of you that relationship building is the key to a more successful life.

A lifetime of enjoyment is meant to be when men and women connect in a relationship.  There are all kinds of advantages to looking forward to being with a significant other.  Activities done together will promote more happiness in life.

Today I want you to start thinking about the investment you can make in your relationship building future.  Please begin a strategy to spend more time formulating meaningful relationships.  Together we can change your world.

When it comes to relationships there is divergent thinking.  The thinking breaks down into confident positive relationship building which comes from the general view that you as a rule like the opposite sex.  The other view comes from suspicion and general dislike of the opposite sex.  Be honest with yourself where do you find yourself in these viewpoints?

In order to develop great strength in relationships you must have interpersonal skills.  The very first way to examine your thoughts is do you generally love people and accept most of them in your life.  The genesis of a great relationship is acceptance and to be very clear we have an acceptance problem bigger than ever among singles.  The media and various hate men and hate women movements are convoluting your thinking about the opposite sex.

Do you search endlessly only to be massively frustrated as to why you can’t seem to find the right one for you?   This because you subconsciously have pre-disposed an idea that all the available people in the dating pool are not good enough.  Please examine how you came to this level of thinking.  Once you make the decision to establish that your thinking is flawed then you can reformulate to a new productive strategy.

If you ever want true love in your life again or for the first time you must be honest with yourself and people in general.  Can you make commitment freely without distress?  Can you freely give yourself to someone in the best and worst of times?  Can you evolve to a level of emotional maturity that will make others around you respond effectively?  If we develop an awareness of who we really are we then can relate to those who are in fact truly compatible.   Please do the work on yourself and discover who you are.  This will then open the door to who you can be with.  In dating failure the key element is snap judgment knee jerk reactionary stereotypical thinking.  Further there are compulsive reactions that get you in a spin cycle of failures with the opposite sex over and over again.  Toxic thinking can be addictive and destructive and you may not know it.

Dating can be difficult, just ask the majority of singles out there. Most single people will tell you just how difficult it is.   My message to you is that it is as difficult as you choose to make it.  I hear it all, trust issues, dishonesty, emotional distress, miscommunication, and power and control issues.  None of what I just mentioned will make you relationship ready.  If many men and women believe they are deceived by each other than what will come of that?

The strength of a relationship exists inside how we behave as humans and furthermore how we choose to allow each other to flourish in our lives.  If you search for the positive in someone you find it conversely if you look for the negative you will find that too.  Why, because we as human beings are not perfect. If this perfection movement I have witnessed over the last decade continues many of you will never attain a meaningful relationship.

The strength in a relationship is to open up and not deceive.  It is the tangled web we reap when we seek to deceive.  Further we must not compete in relationships we must nurture.

Remember that the uphill climb in dating to the best relationship is discovery along the way to finding the person who compliments you.  Please don’t turn it into a frustrating struggle.  You embrace the journey as a learning experience.  Let no one tell you in dating industry that it is easy if you want easy answers with no results.  Take advantage of my service Tri-State Dating Service to find a matchmaker that realizes the complexity.


John Holt