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Solving Human Conditions to Gain Positive Impact

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Perhaps a lofty title for this one.  I have a tremendous insight.  In fact, anyone that is really serious about reality based dating will sign up for my service.

A matchmaker is a catalyst.  I must say that I am making an impact on the dating scene.  I am questioning why dating became dysfunctional, why online dating has polluted dating, why men and women fell prey to the impact of media stories and images about men and women.  I am questioning superficial attraction as being false or fool’s gold. I further go on to point out in many ways why we should begin to simplify the process to become more relaxed with reasonable normal sets of expectations.  I have real compelling solutions to all dating situations.  I further can help you succeed instead of fail.  Success is positive impact; failure is part of the dysfunctional way many singles think about dating.  Sorry, it is the truth.  The human condition created over the last decade has caused a major disconnect between men and women in dating.  This millionaire matchmaker reality television dating show mentality is not for real for ninety nine percent of all singles.  The prince charming scenario will only come true for two percent of all women on earth.  Now before many of you call me names and throw me under the bus, ask yourself this.  Is it really working for me?  Then ask yourself this, what does the current human condition bring me?  Next, ask yourself, am I a dating success, frustrated or failing with the opposite sex?  The positive impact that I make as a matchmaker is to get people to see the human condition created, focus on change. The impact will be more second dates with people, more people liking each other, people dating for longer than 90 days and more permanent relationships.  It is true; it can be tough to understand.  What is the alternative to log onto some dating site that is slowly bleeding you of your money while you remain single?

I advocate for a full array of single people who possess great attitude.  This great attitude will attract the opposite sex.  If we begin to solve the problems of social disconnect, social phobia, lack of social confidence.  If we truly want to take the time to understand someone longer than a drink or cup of coffee, it is true were you just a cup of coffee then history?  If you are single you know what I mean.  The human condition of instant gratification does not and never will apply to dating and relationship building.  Dating success has declined because of poor attitude about dating, fear of dating and meeting people, lack of trust, media images, male role confusion, unrealistic expectations, the candy store called online dating where you can be adored one minute and thrown away the next.  These are human conditions created over the last decade and need to be corrected.  I intend on showing you another way.  Let’s face it dating success has declined in the last decade especially in the last five years.  We must become socially useful.  Being socially useful takes work in the area of interpersonal communication.  I was at a business networking event in Warwick RI recently I saw a client that was a member of my service ten years ago we talked and laughed.  We enjoyed the interaction just like we did ten years ago.  I have these kinds of relationships with many of my clients. Do you have this kind of relationship with your computer mouse and the dating website?  The point I am making here is the computer mouse isn’t going to change the human condition where I can do that.  I have the personality, knowledge and attitude to help you succeed and put the fun back into dating while getting rid of the drama and desperation.

I am well intentioned with my proposal to change the human condition.  Let’s not decline to a state of mind where you think there is no hope.  Start to think that there is hope based on realistic thinking.  The shrinking rate of marriages tells me the human condition changed.  Things changed because we became a cold throwaway society.  Why, because we are buying the fast paced instant gratification mentality that causes many people to simply throw each other away.  Another human condition that cannot be changed is being hurt when you are thrown away.  Many times being thrown away for what.  The grass isn’t greener elsewhere it is the same grass. All people are imperfect; you will run into problems if you jump from one to the next.  People are not flavors of the week.  Humans have feelings with problems, where we failed is creating images of perfection, we don’t want to see any weakness in anyone.  Ask yourself; are all humans one hundred percent strength? I can tell you, forget it.

I believe that my realistic approach is viable and better if you have the right attitude.  I am an inspiration to many who adopt realistic matchmaking.  I am a villain to those with false dreams.  Growth in relationships is a slow process and the human condition of quick fixes must change. It generally takes 1-5 years to end up with someone not 1-5 weeks.  The human condition to be full of dating anxiety has destroyed and made desperate being single.  The human condition of being too picky while expecting instant gratification is a combination that must change.  Success means great attitude and great change.

Tri-State Dating Service has access to singles all over CT, RI, MA, and eastern NY There are a large concentration of members in Westchester county NY, Fairfield county CT, New haven County CT, Hartford county CT, New London county CT, Kent county RI, Providence county RI,  Newport county RI,  Norfolk county MA,  Worcester county MA and the Burroughs of NY city.  Partner with matchmaker John Holt who has twenty years’ experience.  Adopt a personalized strategy to change the human condition so you can succeed and be safe doing it.  There are untapped opportunities with remarkable results on the horizon for singles with a great attitude. It is time for positive impact leaving the circus of online dating behind you.  I will pursue matches for you with potential not doubt lack of trust.  Can you realize the value of a matchmaker?  This flows from my idea to successfully meet your dating goals once they are realistic.


John Holt