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Personal Interaction

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If people develop great personal interaction skills they will find the pathway to meeting people who will find them interesting.  When you know the skills of how to interact with people they will pay attention to you with the idea that they would become friends, social acquaintances, maybe date you and yes perhaps end up in a meaningful relationship.  If larger numbers of single people get out from behind the computer screen, put the smart phones down and interact face to face we will change the dating culture. If you follow my idea here you likely will rack up the numbers of people you have positive social contact with.

Self- awareness plays a great role in how we choose who we interact with if we want to be successful in dating.  You really have to know who you are and who you attract. Once you know who you can succeed with, and who excites you, will be successful in dating.  The way you interact with people likely will be an enhancement to success. Personality draws people in.  So ask yourself, do you want to invest in being prepared to win socially? 

Personal Interaction has a correlation to interpersonal attraction.  If you have the charisma and magnetism to keep someone of the opposite sex engaged in your conversation then you can let them know you.  Initial attraction breaks down three ways.

  1. Visual appeal instantly.
  2. Personal conversational appeal.
  3. Brain chemicals that subconsciously attract people.

Personal conversation can allow over time a psychological connection to form.  If you show a great pleasant attitude there will be a significant increase in attracting the opposite’s sex.  Attitude is major in dating.  People’s feelings about who they meet largely are based on perception. This is why I strongly suggest you develop and fine tune your personal interaction skills.   Sincere, open, direct communication with a great personal interaction style is the key to opening doors when meeting people. Unfortunately people are judgmental they formulate opinions as soon as they meet you.

Once you get into the interactive phase you want to focus on attributes paying close attention to human behavior.  Paying close attention to human behavior gives you cues that help you choose who is right for you and who is not going to be a social connection. Remember that humans get stimulated by interaction and behave in many different ways based on perceptions about interactions they have with one another. I honestly feel we are losing interactive time these days because we are obsessed with technology. Text messaging is hardly the place for developing charisma.

If you understand the powers of persuasion you will know that face to face interaction is the venue to persuade.  Subtle persuasion is where you get second and more dates.  If you interact with people effectively you will attract and get people to like you.  If relationship building is your goal you will need the best personal interaction skills.  The ability inside your interactions to determine attraction will next mean that as part of the paradigm showing affection. In dating someone you like you want to draw closer to them. Showing admiration and affection is a stage in personal interaction.   There are sensitivities you must be aware of that you learn from interacting with people.  Understanding those will help you deal effectively with your interactions which likely will allow you to relate deeper with someone.  My radio show Networking Singles goes into great detail about so many aspects and interaction is one aspect. You can listen to my pod casts anytime at www.wxlm.fm  I explain attraction in great detail. I once did a ten episode series on the radio about attraction. Ten two hour shows which you can find at www.wxlm.fm 

In getting closer during interactions watch body language cues. In what proximity is the person you are interacting with? What signals or cues are you getting that they are into you or not?  A lot of exposure to social interactions will help you get experience.  Remember the following very important aspects of your personal interactions, romanticism, charm, similar mannerisms, generational relations, spiritual connection, intelligence, emotion, and yes attitude.

If you succeed and develop a relationship you will have compassion, passion and end up in a committed stage of life.  At Tri-State Dating Service the focus is on longevity in relational development.

Understand that in your interactions there is a psychological attraction in proximity. It starts physical but transcends to psychological. This is why many superficial dating situations end soon because of a failure to become psychologically connected.

Remember if you master the skills of personal interaction you will become, more attractive, you likely will attract who you really are interested in, and you will likely have a more interesting life.

John Holt