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Great Attitude is A Lifestyle

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Yes you can adopt an attitude that makes you feel great and allows other people to feel great in your presence.   If you adopt the idea that interactions with people are framed in the idea of being positive and healthy you likely will be sought after as an attractive prospect.  Enter a room with a commanding presence which will compel people to be drawn to you.  Once they arrive in your presence then captivate their attention with a vibrant personality.  When you look alive and feel good about yourself the room illuminates in your favor.


Single people I strongly advise you to stop feeling bad and sorry for yourself for being single.  Embrace and have fun being single please!  Date with purpose and agree to meet as many as you can.  Stop looking for perfection and finding things wrong with everyone.  I can make a compelling argument for this way of doing things every day.  Live life be involved in capturing moments and you will soon be dating for success.


Expectations play a major role in dating success or failure. The person with a great attitude knows they can find good qualities in most people.  Unrealistic negative expectations are the reasons you fail in dating.  I hear it all the time “There isn’t anyone for me” I also hear “There are no good men out there” these statements are scar on humanity.  Where did this stuff enter the brains of many?  Use your mind to think in terms of kindness.  Human beings deserve respect and a chance to be together sharing life, laughter, closeness and great times.    Dating should never be about the failures of past relationships.  Dating should not be about pain over broken relationships.   We all know it happens for far too many these days.  We cannot ever change the past.  Adopting a great attitude will assure your destiny in life will be great and over the horizon will be a bright future.  Think of it this way, did you ever see people who smile walk with purpose and have a beaming level of energy?  Adopt the energy.  A great attitude projects vibrant energy.


Just so you know we are not entitled to anything we cannot work for.  In dating and relationship building we must do a lot of personal work.  Self- awareness is the problem if you do not make it a priority to understand yourself.  The world owes you nothing!  You owe it to yourself to feel good inside by finding a person who compliments you in that sense.  Laws of attraction suggest certain magnets attract one another.  A great attitude attracts great attitude.  Dating is about feeling good and projecting your good side to people.  Go out of your way to be thankful for an experience when you date someone.  Create a fun small talk atmosphere.  Dating should be about liking one another and having fun not about a job interview type setting.


If we are going to demanding in dating and want what we want and have it now, then we need to be magnetic not a toxic whiner.  Stop whimpering about the slightest inconvenience, use a great attitude and go out there and create a series of good feelings.   Being entitled to the impossible of all dreams has seeped into our toxic culture.  Barely these days am I hearing from men and women other than complaints about each other?  It really isn’t that bad.  At this service I have numerous clients who are social beings, have bright personalities and live healthy lives yet there seems to be just one aspect missing, they are not with someone yet who they can call a steady person to date.  In my mind I feel we need to adjust the negative ions of past relationships and position all these people for a great future.  A future I know can be attained.  You could be coming from a terrible relationship or bad marriage yet I am here to tell you that you should not succumb to the damage.  Adopt a great attitude about life must go on and pursue life.  Death is inevitable; do not allow time to be wasted on toxic thinking.


A life of greatness comes from being a healthy social catalyst.  Where are my healthy social catalysts?  If we have many we will then emulate this behavior setting better examples.  The examples will multiply and we will turn a society of selfish antisocial people into those with a healthy outlook who are cordial and inviting to each other.  Vibrant behavior is uplifting and attractive.  Create gratification by giving the best of yourself to someone.


If you feel angry, bitter, entitled, enraged and generally angry about past relationships or the opposite sex then you are in deep trouble.  This trouble will likely mean years if not decades of loneliness.  Instead become illuminating and people should feel better in your presence.


Adopt a great attitude.




John Holt