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Dating and Relationship Building is Hard Work

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If you have discovered lately that dating is difficult and building relationships is hard work then count yourself as one of men/women who get it.  Yes it really is time to change course in the success path. You can succeed in dating if you make a pledge to relax, enjoy people and learn about them at a slow steady pace. Did I forget to mention fun? Yes fun and more fun early on in dating is a great idea.  Dating as if you were in a quest to find the one is wrong.  It keeps you single, isolated and alone!  Self- imposed exile from social activity and dating will isolate you and make you depressed.

If you really want a crash course in life, dating and relationships listen to my podcasts, go to www.wxlm.fm  listen to networking singles podcasts, you will get the tools you need for success.

Dating is about baby steps and taking a long time to get to know someone.

As your trusted dating advisor and matchmaker I want to convince you that giving people a longer look and a chance is a wise strategy. It should not be a news flash that dating has been made complicated by people who write books, articles, some experts, your friends, and yes perhaps most single people.  Give more people a chance be less critical, use your mind instead of just operating on perception.

Do you know if you have what it takes to attract people in a social setting?  First thing you do is attend many, next you make eye contact with someone smile at them and be ready for fun less intimidating conversation. This might lead to being liked. Yes you have to just like each other first before you consider everything else. Burn the checklists with all the deal breakers, they keep you alone. Dating isn’t a shopping experience or a job interview. Dating is about liking and learning about people in a non-threatening way.

There are millions of variables go into dating and forming relationships. If you let me guide you it will be easier. I need you to let me be the guide. That is why they call me matchmaker.  Matchmaking is a process here to help you get on track. It isn’t voodoo or magic.  Dating isn’t instant pudding, done in an hour.

If you are smart you will date with your heart and your mind.  Be the smart driven single who knows that less intimidation more warmth, more easy talk relaxing conversation starts the baby step process in dating. They won’t run away from you if you present as easy to talk to.  Do not try to outsmart the opposite sex and be overbearing. Make dating a comfort zone that many want to be in.

We must change dating so people like it. We must end quests for the one. Try it my way you will find the one and not be frustrated doing it.


John Holt