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Confidence Combined With Competence Dictates Success

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Hi everyone.  We live in very uncertain period of time.  Dating has become far too complex than it should be.  I believe that a dating culture that promotes confidence is a great course of action.  When we encourage people to identify all the good characteristics they possess we give them confidence to move forward.  When people feel bad about who they are they lose confidence.  Without confidence you become unsure in approach.  If you are not confident you are less attractive to the opposite sex.  The best way to become confident is to develop in numerous ways competence.  When you have a great knowledge base you will feel confident because you know a great deal about subjects you can discuss that will likely appeal to the opposite sex.

Competence will enhance your human capital.  I believe that the number of positive human connections you make will inflate social capital.  When you inflate social capital which is the gathering of positive human interactions and connections you gain opportunity.  Dating is about the creation of opportunity. The ever growing need to have more social capital and social presence.  My advice to single people is, do not retreat to isolation.  Mingle and connect with many.  If you mingle and connect with many you will achieve cumulative growth giving you a large source of human capital to draw on.   Even if you do not make romantic connections you could get introduced by those people you meet to others.  Success comes by interacting.

Personal engagement helps you stay public, known and relevant.  The establishment of relevancy is the basis for competency as you are viewed by others. 

Gaining connections and getting involved in a connected life will reap benefits if you show competency combined with confidence.  Letting people know you are interesting will develop the chance for deeper meaningful connections to be built.

Remember in this day of social media there is confusion as to what constitutes a real relationship.  Please stop and think a real relationship of romantic inclination is live in person, interacting, embracing and feeling human contact in person with no device of a technological nature involved. This is where you will be felt to the greatest potential if you have confidence.  You do not validate real relationships on social media, by text messaging or sending e mail.  You validate and form relationships by being confident that you have the competence to approach in person the opposite sex and be successful.  Embracing one another in person and sharing life is done only one way in dating.  Be there in person and interact.

The ability to provide information other people learn from will make you fascinating.  You must be competent to be fascinating.  Dating is a vast educational experience.  Being confident and in the dating game gives you enlightening knowledge about human behavior, you can discern who is right and who is wrong for you. A mind opening experience is what dating should be.

Interpersonal relationships thrive when you have confidence in what you know and believe in.

Too often I hear about the frustration of being single.  If you are confident you will have a great outcome you will have one.  It takes time and it takes competence.  Gain the knowledge you need.  If you need a knowledge base then hire me.  I will help you navigate this process from the start to the successful finish.  It is a journey, it takes work, and you must develop competence and be confident about approaching people.   Some of the tools to being competent in dating are projecting happiness being confident about showing people you are happy.  The ability then becomes making others happy in your confident presence.  Knowing you are confident in leading someone with the idea of having fun together.  You know fun things to be involved with so entertain with fun.

Remember this if you are confident about being with people you can learn more in five minutes with a person in front of you.  You likely wouldn’t learn much more in five hours of digital messages online.

Mindset is what guides you so ask yourself this.  Do you feel competent about dating?  Do you further feel confident about approaching the opposite sex?  So if you engage people, engage dating as a process with confidence you will then understand there is one conclusion.  The conclusion is deliberative success.  We don’t need any more techno types telling us what real human interaction is.  We just need the confidence to live it in person in the flesh.  The secret to the human heart has no device on earth explaining it or engineering it.  We feel presence we then decide attraction and chemistry can never be manipulated by machines.  Getting a glimpse of a human being is spending hours with them talking about life.  No short cut, no machines, no place to run and hide from it.  You choose not to run and hide because you are confident.  A campaign of self-awareness is developing competence in dating.  Do you really know who you are?  Can you be counted on as viable companionship for the opposite sex?


John Holt